I feel like John B. from “S-Town” sometimes, when I think about the world. Like John B., I don’t understand how people aren’t all outraged (and I can’t believe how successful TV and videos games and other media built around violence and objectification have been at desensitizing the masses and making reality so easy to dismiss and ignore.) And like John B., my mind wanders to conspiracies and goes down rabbit holes and can end up in some pretty dark places.
If I didn’t have a better disposition and practice in mindfulness and positivity, then I would certainly fall into deep depression like John B. did (and I might even understand his temptation to just leave it all behind).
But unlike John B., I am not uncomfortable in crowded room, (in fact, I think we here in the U.S. need more crowded rooms and more interaction with one another. I can’t prove it (yet) but I think all of the separation and independence and big buildings built around families that separate community is to blame for many of the challenges that plague our planet, like climate change, racism, child abuse, sexual assault, toxic masculinity, gun violence, suicide and mass incarceration, to name a few.) On the contrary, I want to invite as many people to the table as possible and have these tough conversations with everyone imaginable. I want to learn from as many perspectives as possible so that the answer to life’s greatest questions can allow us to heal together once and for all.
Tomorrow, a compassionate and thoughtful leader that I have been following will take the stage as one of the female candidates for the 2020 democratic nomination. Marianne Williamson is one to watch. I look forward to hearing what she has to say on Thursday, and I will most certainly writing more about her in the coming weeks.
It has been a really long time since I posted, and the longer I wait, the more I feel like I have to catch all my readers up from the last time, and that’s a bit daunting, so I am going to limit my update for now to the biggest lessons I’ve learned or have come to accept in the twelve months since I moved back to the U.S. with the intention of empowering other women.
- This is still my mission but it’s taking unexpected shapes and is ever-evolving.
- I cannot separate this from my role in education and I am applying to grad school later this year to study Educational Policy with the desire to one day be the Secretary of Education and/or another role instrumental to complete education reform in the name of wellness and equity.
- I believe everyone should be more engaged in their civic responsibility and that the best way to do this is by getting involved directly with your local community, and finding one cause for which to immediately start taking action.
- There are so many important and tough conversations I want to have with you and so many other people. If you know anyone who you think would enjoy my blog and talking about the big ideas, please send them my way. I want to expand my audience because I humbly believe I have some great questions and good ideas and am driven by compassion and making this world a better place for all.
- Change starts at home. (and that can mean many different things)
Going forward, I am going to do my best to post frequent musings that make you think, but more importantly, I want to inspire you to act. I pose many questions and possibilities and connect you with resources. I want to test my theories. I want to hear your thoughts. I have a lot of ideas and opinions and an inquisitive mind and a deep passion to solve some of the world’s problems, but I don’t know all of the answers though sometimes I carry on like I do. None of us do. And no one of us can find the answers alone. I need your help to find solutions, because I really want this world to be ok. This isn’t about me, and it isn’t about being right. It is about having a conversation.
As I send this out today, I am doing so with the intention of posting much more often, and keep the conversations short and thought-provoking. It isn’t going to be perfect.
As I send this out today, I do so with some fear, feelings of inadequacy, and the admission that I still have so much to learn. And as a white person, I have a lot to unlearn and a lot of stepping back to do.
To the Spiritual White Women out there who are reading this, I especially invite you into these conversations with me. Layla Saad spoke out to you two years ago in her viral letter and has continued graciously speaking to us, teaching us, and inviting us in and now I want to talk to you about what we can do to better support the work of Layla, and the work at Catrice M. Jackson, and the work of Beyonce, and Ruth Buffalo, and Matika Wilbur and Adrienne Keene and….so many other amazing indigenous and black women of color who are giving so much of themselves to help us be better. We women all need to stand together now and lift each other up, and that’s what a lot of this blog is going to be about going forward. How to be kind, but take no shit.
Nolite te Bastardes Carborundorum
(In case anyone’s head goes there: I am not mad at Men. This time in which we live and the actions women are taking to preserve our autonomy is not a war against Men. We know there are great Men who aren’t out there being Bastards, and we want them to hold their fellow male-counterparts accountable to stop being Bastards. (We are mad at the Bastards, the abusers, the rapists, the mad men, the bad men….the Bastards. Are. Going. Down.)
Women, in this blog, going forward, I am speaking directly to you. To you women who sense that they could be doing more but aren’t sure how. To the women who need a little push to be their absolute best. To the women ready to embrace their inner-goddess-warrior-wisdom and Unite to give birth to the best and more informed and empowered female leaders and bring healing and balance to this country once and for all. Women, we are too strong and to woke and too #metoo to let Trump or anyone like him be elected EVER AGAIN, right? We gotta run our asses off to take every seat we can in 2020. We can NEVER let TRUMP or anyone like him ever have a chance in the highest seat in our land ever again.
Not since Layla Saad’s challenge took the world by storm, or Margaret Atwood’s Handmaid’s Tale reached even more through Hulu’s fantastic reproduction. And not since Brene Brown and Educated, and Becoming, and Homecoming and Clarissa Pinkola Smith and leaning in and #metoo. We are not going back.
The time is NOW to take this country into deserving hands. We must listen to all of the candidates in the debates and have high standards and get active where we are so that WE women make the decision and OWN it in 2020. 2020 is the year for ALL WOMEN.
Again, if you know any women who would be interested in having these conversations with me, please send them a link to BeanCarriesOn.com.
I look forward to speaking with you again soon.